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Flamenco

Passion. Sweat. Dancing, music, drums. Wine. Clapping. Flamenco.

I bought tickets to a flamenco show for Sunday evening, knowing that it was a must-do in Southern Spain. So we traveled down the narrow streets of Granada, stopping for tapas and drinks along our way, of course. After eating our plates of potatoes, cheeses, meats and pile of fried sardines, we continued our meander towards the tucked-in venue of the Flamenco Tableau.

We were shown to our seats in a small room, one table to the left of center, about 4 feet from the stage. As we waited, we visited with another Canadian couple who were traveling through Spain, sharing our common perceptions about the Spanish culture. Noah and Natalie made us proud by waiting patiently for the performance, no doubt fascinated by watching the people around us, as we saw many nationalities represented in the room.

A guitar player, singer and drummer stepped onto the stage and the noise of the crowd quickly diminished in anticipation. The guitarist then proceeded to extinguish any low expectations we may have held and remind us that we had come to the birthplace of this fine instrument. The singer joined his beautiful voice, with Arabic sounding blends, and the rythm was perfectly held on a cajón.

Then, the dancers entered, and while our ears still held on to the exquisite music, our eyes could not leave the vibrancy of the dancing couple. The lady had a flowing dress, part of a flamenco wardrobe, and the man was dressed in a well-fit suit. Both had scarves to add to their movements and the drama of the dance. But more than dresses and scarves, the face of each dancer held more emotion than most mid-westerners have ever dared to express, and it was hard to look away.

The dancers started with quick movements, wide sweeping arms and twirls, and their feet kept up a tap dance that rivaled any instrument. In each new song, one dancer was featured and each time there was a grand finale of feet hitting the floor faster and faster with marked jabs and flicks. A highlight of the performance was when the lady stepped off the stage in front of Natalie to dance with all of her might, legs and feet flying. After she was finished, Natalie told me, “I saw that she was sweating!”. You bet she was, baby! You’ve probably just never had the opportunity to be so close to a dancer to see how she sweats!

It was definitely a highlight for our family to experience the passion, drama and expertise of Flamenco, and I feel that we have gained yet another piece of Spanish culture.

Horses

Sometimes opportunities appear when you are least expecting them, which can make the surprise even more delightful and inspiring. We found such an opportunity recently on a walk down to the river with the host of our Airbnb.

Luna had offered to show us the path down to the river, so while Paul was faithfully working at the house, the kids and I traipsed along beside her down a sunlit path to the shallow river running down from the mountains. Noah and Natalie splashed a bit in the water, and we walked through my favorite eucalyptus grove. Eucalyptus trees are strong, smooth and tall, the leaves smell incredible, and they look like God hand-painted the bark of each one. They are truly beautiful, and I loved seeing the light peeking through the branches.

As we meandered along the sandy shore of the river, Luna spotted a couple of horses on a hill on the other side, in the tiny white village of Los Tablones. Being a horse lover, she was very excited and convinced us to cross over and look at them. After wading across the freezing water, we climbed the hill to find two boys, Noah’s age, playing with the horses. When we asked if we could pet them, the boys gave us a nonchalant agreement and, having an audience, they then showed off their skills by jumping on the horses’ backs and doing a couple of tricks. These were gypsy horses, and their young gypsy owners knew them well.

Luna eventually requested a ride, met with another shrug and “sure”, then the two boys took turns giving Noah and Natalie rides as well. The pictures describe the experience better than words; the whole afternoon had a feeling of magical delight, my heart not really knowing how to capture the vision before me, the delicious breeze and golden light mixed with the sounds of laughter, being aware that this moment is so unique and yet real.

A recurring theme that Paul and I have felt for this adventure we are on is to “pay attention”. We believe that God has something to tell us, and we need to give notice not only to what is obvious, but also to the details around us. This beautiful opportunity that we had with the gypsy horses was a small example of noticing, then taking a step forward to cross the river to the other side for a wonderful experience. I need to take time to look up, explore, take risks, and most of all “pay attention”.

Spain Time

Take a day, push back everything you do by two hours, then add in relaxed and leisurely conversations, meals and walks… this is Spanish time. From what we have observed, here is a typical Spanish timeline adapted to a schedule that works for us.

8am- Coffee and toast or croissants for breakfast, (we add eggs), then Noah, Natalie and I start school and Paul heads into his little office to work. The kids usually wrap up lessons by 10:30am and I send them out to play until I call them in for math around noon.

Working on school. This schedule has changed a bit since we first moved to Spain, but I’m really enjoying what we do each day and feel like Noah and Natalie are getting a good educational foundation, mixed with the unique benefits of our journey abroad.

12pm- Paul takes a three hour break from 12pm-3pm and we really enjoy using this time to take a walk, get groceries, eat dinner, and just enjoy family time together.

2pm- Main and largest meal of the day eaten with family over the long siesta time. This usually consists of a few courses including salad, bread, cheese/olives, main dishes, and wine, of course. Most shops close from 2-5pm and families take the time to eat, talk, take a short nap or just rest. It took a few times of us walking around town to realize that Spaniards really do have siestas! There is no one around, nothing is open, and we are expected to be quiet.

3pm- Paul works from 3-7pm in order to line up with his co-worker’s morning (8am-12pm in Sioux Falls). The kids and I spend time reading out loud (our latest choice is “Heidi” as we look at the mountains and pretend they are the Alps), playing outside, creating art, making a fire for the evening, and starting dinner.

7pm- we eat dinner, but most Spaniards wait until 9pm or later to eat dinner together. Dinner is usually a very light affair- yogurt, oranges and muesli, a veggie salad with olive oil and vinegar, or some soup.

8:30- 10pm is tappas hour, where families might go out to the local bars and restaurants for conversation over small plates of food and drinks. We tried this once, but we are usually in bed by this time! Instead, we have enjoyed having tappas earlier in the day, usually before the 2pm dinner.

When we first arrived, I had to remind myself to not look to the clock for my schedule, and instead enjoy the slower pace that focuses on relationships and family, rather than efficiency. It is a pace that I have slowly adopted and one that I hope to maintain no matter where I am and how the culture around me operates.

Move to Órgiva

A few days after celebrating Three Kings Day, we made our way back to the Barcelona airport to fly south. Walking through the airport again, we all commented on how different it was this time around; we were not quite as exhausted, for one, and everything was so much more familiar! We took our short flight south and gaped at the views that we could see from the plane window. Breathtakingly beautiful are not adequate words to describe the mountains, rolling hills, and tiny white towns tucked under blue skies.

On the path to our house.

As gorgeous as our scenery was, the first few days at our new little home were challenging, though it’s kind of hard to describe why.

For one, we were cold. There is only a small wood stove in the kitchen to heat the place, and we had never had to rely on a wood stove for heat before, so we didn’t really know what we were doing. I also was not prepared to be cold- I had come to Spain to escape the cold! So wearing two pairs of wool socks, shoes, two pants and multiple tops and jackets was a little too reminiscent of January back home, without the simple thermostat to turn up.

Second, the cultural and language barriers were starting to sting. It’s hard to always feel like an outsider, never really understanding the unwritten rules and not knowing how to ask for what you really want. Or, even the cultural difference of being afraid for your life as you drive on a seemingly one-lane road with no rail around the side of a mountain; it adds a bit of stress to life.

Also, we love each other, but after having lived with dear friends and family constantly for six months in a row to now only having the four of us for our constant companions, dinner-dates, playmates and conversationalists, we felt the need for a little more space!

It’s been two weeks as I’m writing this, and I can now say with confidence that we are living in a slice of Paradise. We conquered the wood stove, Paul can drive around the mountains without feeling like we will fall off, we have decided not to worry how touristy we look/sound/feel, and most importantly, we are learning how to truly enjoy our family time together. It took time, patience and trusting that we are here on purpose to be able to look out the window and absorb the tapestry of beauty that God had woven in front of our eyes.

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